You never know how close you are.. So Never give up on your dreams!

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Gerangan apa sahabat itu jika kau sentiasa mencarinya, untuk sekadar bersama dalam membunuh waktu?Carilah ia untuk bersama menghidupkan sang waktu!
Kerana dialah yang bisa mengisi kekuranganmu, bukan mengisi kekosonganmu.

Something no one told me.

Gambar-gambar dirompak dari sini.

The red string of fate

The red string of fate, also referred to as the red thread of destiny, red thread of fate, and other variants, is an East Asian belief originating from Chinese legend and is also used in Japanese legend. According to this myth, the gods tie an invisible red string around the ankles of men and women who are destined to be soul mates and will one day marry each other. Often, in Japanese culture, it is thought to be tied around the little finger. According to Chinese legend, the deity in charge of "the red thread" is believed to be Yue Xia Lao (月下老) (often abbreviated to "Yuelao" [月老]), the old lunar matchmaker god who is also in charge of marriages.

The two people connected by the red thread are destined lovers, regardless of time, place or circumstances. This magical cord may stretch or tangle, but never break. This myth is similar to the Western concept of soulmates or a twin flame.

p/s:Kalau dalam Islam,istilahnya JODOH :)

Source:wiki

Selalu ada rencana indah buatmu :)

Sang Kuasa selalu punya rencana indah untuk kita umatNya

Sesekali langsung membahagiakan hati…

Terkadang sejenak bertentangan dengan harap

Kau hanya perlu mensyukuri dan merenungi

Usah kau terus mempertanyakan, buang semua logika

Berdoalah senantiasa… dan syukuri baik buruk yang kau rasa

Saat kau berniat baik dan meminta yang terbaik, itulah yang kan Dia beri

Terkadang seketika… seringkali harus lalui hari yang menguji hati

Selalu ada rencana indah untukmu

Walau seringkali kau melupakanNya

Selalu ada rencana indah bagimu

Jika kau terus meminta padaNya

(http://www.anggrekbiru.com)

This is so truly inspiring.

“Riding my bicycle along Hollywood Boulevard today I saw him in the crowd - noticed him instantly. When we reached each other, I said hi and asked if he would mind if I took his photo. “You want my photo?”

Yeah, I said. There’s nobody like you. “I know.” And he smiled for me-although his face was evidently destroyed by something-and his mouth reconstructed.

I asked him what happened.“Shot,” he said. “Shot in the face.” He motioned a gun at close range being shot directly into his face.

And you survived that? I asked.

“No,” he said with a smile.“I’m dead.” I apologized for what was a stupid question, but it was hard to fathom - gun shot-close range - into his face. And he lived.

So what happened? I asked.Was it an accident, or did someone mean to shoot you?

“I did it myself. Tried to killmyself.”

So tell me, how did it feel, after you shot yourself in the face - and you came to - and realized you were not dead?

“Agony. The worst agony ever.”

Man.

“Yeah.”

What kind of gun?

“30-aught-six.”

I was thunderstruck. I have met and photographed many people - who are featured in this stream - humans who have overcome amazing adversity. Lydia, who was burnt almost to death.Ray, whose eye was gone.Margaret, who weighed over 500 pounds.But this. Man. And yet hewas smiling. I told him what

I thought:

God gives everyone a different life - and some people get really really hard lives.

“That’s me. Doesn’t get much worse.”

Told me he’s on the street. Homeless.

I asked him how bad it was that he wanted to die. “Bad. Really bad. The worse kind.”

Are you gonna try again?“No. I tried once. That’s enough.”Man. Sometimes our lives seem hard - unbearable even -but then we meet Kevin.Or Lydia. Or Ray. And realize again how lucky we are.

How hard some humans have it. Man.

And yethe smiled. He smiled for me. This man with his face blown off - by his own hand. And here he is -

in the sunshine, listeningto music, smiling.

Don’t even know what else to say about this. Guess I’ve already said it.”

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This is a big fuck you....(satu lagi entry copy paste)

To anyone who has misjudged me or misunderstood me.
To anyone who has told me that I’m not good enough- and to myself for believing them.
To anyone who has talked about me behind my back because they didn’t have to guts to say it to my face.
To anyone who has ever lied to me.
To anyone who has underestimated me.
To anyone who has used my past against me.
To anyone who has made me cry.
To anyone who ignored me.
To anyone who never let me explain myself.
To anyone who only told me exactly what I wanted to hear.
To anyone who has forced me to do something.
To anyone who has ever turned someone against me.
To anyone who kept secrets from me, that involved me.
To anyone who made me feel insignificant.

Some thank yous…
To anyone who has listened to me pour out my story because I needed someone to listen.
To anyone who was there for me when I needed them.
To anyone who pushed me to be a better me.
To those people who have been there for me, and still are.
To anyone who has left my life.
To anyone who has told me the truth.
To anyone who didn’t beg me to tell them what I was thinking.

I’m sorry…
To anyone I have lied to.
To anyone I didn’t apologize to, even though I’m often wrong.
To anyone who I held too closely because I thought I needed them.
To anyone I have used in any way.
To anyone I mistreated because I let my emotions get the best of me.
To anyone I have given an excuse to.
To anyone I never gave an explanation to.
To anyone I left behind.
To anyone I never gave a chance to, underestimated, ignored, misheard, judged.  To anyone I have ever left, silenced, angered, frustrated, upset. 

And a big fuck you to myself…
For being easily influenced, for caring about other people’s opinions, for not being myself, for lying to myself, for not knowing what to do, for being too emotional, for not facing reality, for giving up, for being a horrible person, for letting my thoughts get the best of me.
To myself, for being myself, and being too stubborn to change- for forgetting that things change.

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Why You Must First Love Yourself

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Everyone has heard that you have to love yourself before someone else can love you. The reason for this is simple - our ideal partner is a reflection of us.

We attract people that are like us. Not just in terms of romantic, sexual/physical attraction. We attract them metaphysically - these people tend to turn up in our lives.

Each of us has a unique belief system, a way of seeing the world that is slightly different to everyone else's. It's almost like our ego has a fingerprint. What turns us on, what turns us off. What we feel is important.

Our political preferences, tastes in food and music, and so on, all arise out of this belief system. Our particular thoughts and feelings resonate with different aspects of the world around us. If your thoughts are dark, you like heavy metal. If your thoughts are happy, you like cheesey music. We like certain foods, like for example, coffee, because of the way they make us feel.

The types of people that come into our lives are affected by our beliefs. We meet people who have made the same sorts of choices we make. Where to live, which bar to go to, which supermarket to shop at. All these choices reflect our values and our way of being from day to day, minute to minute.

When you enter a seminar or lecture theatre, where do you sit? On the front row where you can ask questions or the back where you can fall asleep without being noticed? Our personality is reflected in the places we turn up... and so we end up being surrounded by people who are the same way.

Romantic compatibility has a lot to do with this. Why do we always ask our love interest what sort of music they like? We want to know they are on our wavelength. We want to know they are drawn to the same emotional experience, so we can trust that they will understand us.

It seems like this is easily faked. All you have to do is listen to someone talk passionately and agree with them. Find something from your own experience that is similar emotionally and share it. But this can be hard work. It's much easier if your passions really are similar emotionally. That way, things just happen.

The problem comes when you are romantically attracted to people who are not on your wavelength. This means, people who are not right for you, but who have something that you respect, or admire, or just desire. You want to be with the other person to feel good about yourself, to fill some hole inside you or to change what other people think about you. These relationships are doomed to failure from the start, because of the amount of energy it takes to maintain them.

Do you like yourself? Would you be attracted to someone who was the opposite sex version of you? Are the people you are attracted to your mirror in terms of life philosophy, success, social hierarchy?

The right person for you has similar political and religious views. Their life philosophy, work ethic, wit matches yours perfectly. There are certain adjustments to make across the genders, for example power in men roughly equates to looks in women. But the stress in the relationship is directly proportional to your differences. A certain amount of stress is healthy and keeps things interesting, but only up to a certain breaking point.

When you think of the men or women who naturally come into your life, the ones who have the same interests and world view as you, are you attracted to them? The girls or guys who you know you could get, and just be with, just by turning round and saying you wanted them, are they the sort of person you want? Are they the sort of person you want to be? If you're honest with yourself, you'll probably realise that the things you don't like about them are the things you don't like about yourself. So you reject that person and look for the qualities you want to see in yourself, in someone else.

If you like yourself, you will like the people you naturally meet, and they will like you. If you don't like yourself, you will waste energy trying to get with people who aren't like you, or you will settle for being with someone you don't like.

There are two solutions to this. The first, and most important, is to learn to like yourself. The second, is to turn yourself into the person that you want to be.If you want to like yourself, one way to do it is to realise that you are the perfect You that anyone could be. No-one else can do the things you do quite like you. No-one sees the world quite the same way. No-one has precisely your talents, ambitions, or lack thereof. No-one screws things up the same way, no-one makes the same mistakes and faux pas'. At being you, for all your faults and weaknesses, you would get an A+. It's ok to be the way you are - it must be, because the way you are IS the way you are.

Once you adopt this philosophy or one like it with regard to yourself, you will start seeing others the same way. The truth is, you probably are attracted to the opposite sex equivalent of you, it's just you're also turned off to them, for the same reasons you're turned off from yourself. Accept yourself, and you will accept them.

Many people think that their drive to improve themselves stems from the things they don't like about themselves. Feelings of inadequacy, dissatisfaction, or just dislike and hatred for yourself actually won't change, no matter how much you improve yourself. It is the feeling that needs to be dealt with, not whichever reason you rationalise at the time for feeling it.

It's actually easier to change and improve yourself once you accept yourself. The same negative feelings of self-non-acceptance lock us in to being those things that we want to change. Change the feeling first, and the specific details will sort themselves out.

Look at the sort of person you want to get together with. You can become the sort of person who they would want to be with, assuming that you're not already. If the person they want to be with, is the sort of person that you don't like, then you'll have to let go of those feelings, because those feelings keep you from being like them.

Take the school computer nerd, who wants to get with the cheerleader. But the cheerleader likes the football players. She's physically active, she parties a lot, and is confident in herself. So she looks for guys who are physically active, party a lot, and are confident in themselves. It makes no sense that she would want to be with a guy who locks himself in his bedroom, is anti-social, and can't look her in the eye when he speaks.

So to get the girl, the nerd must become the football player. He can still play to his strengths with computers, and he needn't play football. But he needs to adopt their way of being in terms of inward qualities. If he is truly attracted to the cheerleader, then he wants those qualities for himself anyway, and he dislikes the contradicting qualities he already possesses.

The nerd that truly doesn't want to become the football player doesn't truly want the cheerleader. He wants the bookish girl who is already on his wavelength. Either way, the solution is rooted in self-acceptance. If he accepts himself, he will accept the bookish girl. If once he accepts himself, he finds that he wants to become a footballer, he can have the cheerleader too.

Once you accept yourself you will realise your true motives for wanting someone you can't have. If you want to be with them to compensate for your own shortcomings, you will no longer want them. If you want them because you want to be like their ideal partner, then you will become that person. So there is never a need to change yourself for someone else. 

Accept yourself, and you will like the potential partners you can get. 

Improve yourself, and you will get the partner you want.

Only once in your life u'll get a right person with whom u'll get married, so, till than keep enjoying with the wrong Ones!

Kekawan dan kekasih

You will always  have super bestfriend(s)-this best friend you can never trade with anything else.You may have partner,but he or she has to accept the fact that you will never lose this super bestfriend in your whole life.I mean,take it or leave it.You will realize this when your partner leave you,you have no one except them.Never let them go.

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Adakah kita bertemu dengan orang yang salah?

(Klik sini untuk ke original entry.Kalau tak klik rugi tau.Klik cepat kat sini.Hehe.)

Terkadang kita terfikir,adakah kita bertemu dengan orang yang salah?Teman sekerja yang tak ngam?Kawan2 sekolah/uni yang takleh nak buat geng study?Housemate yang menyakitkan hati ( sebab tak reti basuh pinggan, cakap pedas, etc etc)?Ataupun kekasih yang tiba-tiba dirasakan tak serasi?

( atau even adik beradik atau family kita yang kita takleh nak faham perangai mereka?)

(( hohoho.. jangan ingat entry ini hanya untuk cintan cintan sahaja, kay?))

Sebab hakikatnya, kita akan bertemu dengan ramainya manusia yang menjengkelkan hati kita, dan sangat sukar untuk kita bersama dengan mereka.Sebab pelbagainya manusia yang kita temui di dunia ini. Terlalu ramai manusia dengan pelbagai karenahnya.

kerana berlainannya manusia itu adalah utk apa….. 

 Hai manusia, sesungguhnya Kami menciptakan kamu dari seorang laki-laki dan seorang perempuan dan menjadikan kamu berbangsa-bangsa dan bersuku-suku supaya kamu saling kenal mengenal. Sesungguhnya orang yang paling mulia di antara kamu di sisi Allah ialah orang yang paling bertakwa di antara kamu. Sesungguhnya Allah Maha Mengetahui lagi Maha Mengenal. ( Alhujurat: 13)

utk lita’arafu..untuk berkenalan. Untuk mengetahui, memaknai manusia lain.Untuk menyedari betapa beruntungnya kita, mahupun rendahnya kita berbanding manusia lain.Untuk kita sering berlumba-lumba menggapai taqwa tanpa membeza-bezakan manusia lain.Namun, tentu kita akan bertemu dengan manusia yang tak serasa dengan kita serta berlainan segalanya.Sehingga sekecil2 perbezaan kita menjadi besar dan dijadikan hujah untuk menjauhkan diri. apatah lagi memutuskan silaturrahmi.Walaupun diri kita dengan dia,satu aqidah, satu kefahaman dan satu cinta pada Allah..

DAn kita bertanya, mengapa diri kita dan dia, begitu jauh sekali?

Di situlah, kita kena sentiasa berusaha mencari titik persamaan…

Kita takkan pernah bertemu dengan orang yang salah.

Takkan!

Kerana Allah telah menakdirkan setiap saat dan inci dalam kehidupan kita.Setiap takdir itu merupakan satu ketetapan Allah buat kita, merupakan sesuatu yang terbaik buat kita.Dan setiap manusia yang kita temui itu, tentu memberikan makna sesuatu pada kita.Walaupun banyaknya kejengkelan hati kita pada dia.Namun, tentu sebenarnya mereka yang ‘salah’ itu sendiri banyak mengajar kita:

akan kekurangan diri kita sendiri.

Bukankah seorang musuh itu terkadang lebih jujur daripada seorang sahabat sejati – kata-kata hikmah Arab.Setiap jodoh dan pertemuan tentunya telah ditetapkan oleh Allah,Untuk kita belajar sesuatu darinya.Tak pernah kita bertemu dengan orang yang salah… semua yang kita temui adalah stesen-stesen perhentian untuk mengutip hikmah, buat bekalan di dalam perjalanan..Percayalah, kadang-kadang di awal pertemuan akan banyak berlaku perkelahian, salah faham dan ketidak seragaman.Namun masa akan mengambil alih, memberi peluang makna kefahaman masuk ke dalam jiwa kita yang jernih.Kerana kita pada hakikatnya, punya hati yang satu, matlamat yang satu, dan tentu cinta yang satu, hanya kepada Allah rabbul jalil.Ikatan hati manakah lagi yang paling kuat selain dari Allah?Kerana itu, di setiap perselisihan, mahupun ketidak serasian, kembalilah semula kepada apa yang akan dapat menyatukan kita.Itulah dia Allah.Kerana dihitung perbezaan-bezaan , memang akan semakin menjadikan hati kita jauh.Namun, those does not matter, sebab ALlah sahaja yang membindkan hati kita insyaallah.

And He Knows best. 

Don't make women cry.

“Be careful not to make a woman cry, because Allah (swt) counts each one of her tears “… But consort with them in kindness, for if you hate them it may happen that you hate a thing wherein God has placed much good”.”

—	(Qur’an 2:233)

Think in English

ramai dok tanya hang cmna nak improve english,pastu hang jwb "think in english".maksudnya cmna tu?

Maksudnya bila dok berfikir, kita try berfikir dalam bahasa inggeris.. contohnya, instead of kita fikir "mana pen aku taktaw?", we can think "where's my pen?"

                                                                                                   -Anwar Hadi.